My one or two followers may have been wondering where I am or what I have been up to during these last few weeks. The messy, ugly truth? I’ve been avoiding you. You see, I used to use writing as my means of escape. In the past, I used writing as my method of marching through the rough patches in life. This was in my early to mid twenties, nearly a decade ago. Ernest Hemingway said it best, “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” During that period of my life, I had experienced a heartache that I never thought I’d get over, and in some ways, I never did. In the process of getting over that time period, I lost the ability to enjoy expressing myself in the form or the written or typed word.
Recent events have definitely left me with the need to bleed, but without the know-how or the discipline. My husband recently had a setback in his career that could possibly be life-changing for the both of us. Due to military cutbacks, he is among the many forced out of the service. In the last few weeks, we have been very uncertain of the timeline, the terms, the prospect of finding new employment, and all that comes with it. The past five years have been a monetary, mentality, and marital struggle. These years have left us in debt, from poor choices and unexpected home repairs, struggling to find our own happiness and peace of mind, and in marriage counseling trying to come together in terms of our unified happiness and life goals. I won’t lie, even now, I often feel as though we rushed into things. We didn’t look at long term goals and quality of life expectancies. This change has made my future expectations even more unclear. I thought we would have children by now, but PTSD has put a serious damper on that endeavor. I had a timeline planned for paying off our debt and then I had planned to finally follow my dreams. I had always thought that I wanted my husband to get out of the military at some point, rather than spend our lives in a state of servitude to the armed forces. Now it’s happening, and I’m scared to death that we’ll lose everything for which we’ve worked so hard. Will I ever have the privilege of following my dreams? Will I always sacrifice my goals and happiness for the sake of my marriage? Or is this pain and uncertainty what has ultimately brought on the return of my desire to write, express my feelings, and to see what other options there are for me and my career?
In the last year, I’ve come to think of the joy I used to obtain from putting pen to paper. Though with our growing obsession with the internet and social media, I wonder if I can derive that same feeling. Maybe I should start carrying a notebook again, and transfer my musings from paper to blog in some fashion. Right now, I won’t deny that I’m feeling a little lost and out of sorts. I’m thirty and I’m working on a career path that I thought I enjoyed. I transferred to another office and I’m feeling overqualified and under-appreciated. I was told that I would be essentially performing the same position that I had been for the past two years in my previous location. However, three weeks into this new location, I’m finding that I was performing the responsibilities for two positions during all that time. I might be closer to home, but I’m no longer feeling challenged. I want more out of life, and I want more out of my career. I know that it’s up to me. At the same time, it’s all about taking risks, and location, and who you know. While my friends and family are here, I know that I won’t find what I’m looking for locally, I need to escape my comfort zone. How do I convince him to go on an adventure with me? If I stay here, I’ll surely die a slow and painful death in the realm of creativity.